I hate when you use the word hate in conversation, and someone replies, “You shouldn’t say ‘hate,’ it’s such a strong word.”
The respondee is trying to be dryly clever, attempting to boast kindness in a minuscule way, but the issue in that response is that it actually strengthens the meaning of hate and devalues the meaning of love.
Love is strong because hate is strong. Hate is strong because love is strong.
Love doesn’t exist without hate. Hate doesn’t exist without love. It is a natural balance.
This natural balance occurs when the respective meaning of these words hold the same weight.
Therefore, if someone says hate is such a strong word, implying that you shouldn’t use it, then they are inadvertently, and adversely, giving hate more weight and importance than love. This devalues love, as does the overuse of claims regarding intense affection.
Similar to currency, if you overuse something, its value diminishes. If a government prints more money to get out of debt, it is devaluing the strength of its dollar. When people say (or “print” on social media) they love an acquaintance, an area, an object, or the food they ate, then they are devaluing love. Do you really have an intense affection for those things you claim you do, or do you merely like them?
The more the value of love decreases and hate strengthens by way of social significance (as in too strong to use), the natural balance becomes less stable. Similar to what we’re seeing today with societal differences. Do we love all the hate that has been distributed recently? One is certainly outweighing the other, or at least the media leads us to believe such.
To bring in pop culture as an example: Voldermort became pretty powerful because many characters in the Harry Potter universe believed that his name should not have been spoken.
Therefore, if love exists because of hate and hate exists because of love, and the natural balance relies on each holding the same weight in regard to their respective meanings, then it is OK to use the word hate as much as one uses the word love.
To bring in another pop culture reference, Ali Wong’s character in Netflix’s 2023 dark comedy Beef, Amy Lau, says in episode three, “I hate pretending I don’t hate things.”
Don’t let the hate build up inside, or it just becomes stronger and more dangerous.