“Every little thing that you do, Baby, I’m amazed by you.”
Something has been eating away at me (surprise, surprise), and despite my best efforts through public questioning and sarcastic insults, people still have been using the words love and amazing way too much. They overwork the meaning like a wanderer overworks a Mexican burro. They use the words to tease like a cheerleader taking advantage of a nerd or loner with a crush. They are passed around like a two-dollar Vietnamese… let’s just go ahead and not finish that sentence.
How many times have you used the word love when talking about something or someone? Don’t bother answering because I can’t hear you so I will explain my brief experiences with the word – and not the feeling. The feeling is something we only need to share with the person it is intended for; no one needs to be involved in your personal business. Some examples are: family, mate, lifelong friend, and perhaps a dog, maybe a car. Anyway, I have accidentally used the word many times when describing something I like or am passionate about. When people do this, it’s fine, but what irks me is when they deliberately accent the word when it is blatantly obvious they have no feelings or general knowledge toward the claim. Below are true accounts.
Friend: Me and my girlfriends are going to Durango this weekend for my birthday, but we need something else to do.
Me: Let’s look on the internet. Click, type, Click, Click. Looks like The Commodores are playing.
Friend: I LOVE The Commodores.
Me: Really? I didn’t know that. Which songs?
Friend: I don’t know.
Me: Let’s check Spotify.
Long story short, she liked one song. Here’s another doozy from the same friend.
Friend (to waitress): Can I have a soy wrap instead of the seaweed.
Waitress: Sure. I will have your order out soon.
Me: You don’t like seaweed?
Friend: I feel bad. I want to LOVE seaweed?
Me: Why do you want to love it? Who loves it? You don’t have to.
Friend: Because it’s good for you.
Me: So are like a million other things.
We can’t keep loving things because it devalues the meaning of the word and the passion and intimacy of the feeling. Plus, people who are happily loving things all the time are probably hiding something, so be aware.
Next, people seriously need to stop referring to average things as amazing. Of course, this is coming from a person who has difficulty finding anything impressive – especially himself. Not every movie you see or every song you hear is amazing. Not every conversation you have with a new person or every experience you encounter is amazing. Also, not every one cares.
We are devaluing greatness and offering false expectations and a delusional future. Psychologically, I believe anyone has the ability to convince themselves how to feel about something; we all have our own biases. However, we need to get a little more realistic. For example, if your kid can’t make the drive across town without getting carsick, the how the hell are they going to be an astronaut? I’m just saying that if we encourage the talents and abilities people already posses instead of giving them the broad idea of accomplishing anything they set their mind to then maybe we will have a great world instead of settling for what is just good enough and convincing ourselves it’s the most AMAZING thing in the world.
We need a balance, people; we need hate and trash. Everything can’t be amazing because then we have no standard, we have no levels to differentiate true quality, and we will eventually halt progression with our happy-go-lucky misconceptions of life. Take this lame blog for instance: you know there’s something better out there, and I’m glad you don’t like it.
I sure do love to hate amazing trash.